Frequently Asked Questions

Believing it won’t work for you is the most common concern people
have.
Everyone believes they’re a tough case!
Makes total sense when nothing you try resolves your issue, doesn’t it?
When you try something that is supposed to work, and it doesn’t…
… what does that do to your belief that 'you'll overcome it?'
That’s right, it adds doubt to it.
And it puts a crack in the slight optimism you may have had. 
Try the next thing, and it doesn’t work again?
Now you really start feeling there’s something wrong with you.
Try even more, and that also doesn’t work?
“Uh oh, I must be a tough case”
Or you might even start believing you’re just an
anxious/awkward person!
Well, that’s not true.
You’re not born anxious.

If you doubt that, have you ever seen any anxious babies?
Right. 
And, what if what you’ve tried in the past simply hasn’t been an
effective solution. Or at the very least, not an effective solution FOR
YOU.
And, what if that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you?
Instead, it just means you haven’t tried the right approach for you. 
The 30 day challenge guides you through a completely different
strategy.
The ACT approach you’ll learn about…
… does NOT require you to forcefully face your fears.
A.C.T. sounds like you have to act physically.
Which might imply you need to go outdoors and hopscotching in the
park. Or sing in the supermarket. Or lie down in public. Or…
Well, good news:
None of these awkward exposures are necessary. 
I know, I know… 

It’s counter to what you’ve read and hear the so-called experts say.
They say you need to force yourself to face your fears. And that it's the
only way.
Well, how do I say this nicely...
They’re wrong :-)
They're not intentionally wrong. I'm sure they mean well. But they're
simply operating based upon old information. 
Now the reality is that changing your thoughts and facing your fears
does work. For SOME people. And, to some degree only. 
Because those for whom it does work, are still anxious!
Just less…
Now that's great, but what if you could actually overcome your social
anxiety completely?
That's possible with this approach.
This approach is gentle. And scientifically proven to be effective (more
than 100 scientific studies confirm its effectiveness). And it meets the
criteria for evidence-based treatments set by the American
Psychological Association for a number of conditions, including PTSD
(post-traumatic Stress disorder)
So…

Since you’ve never tried THIS strategy, and it that has worked for
countless others…
… what if this could work for you too?
During the challenge you’ll see various video testimonials. Complete
interviews with former sufferers whom I coached to social ease.
This will be very inspiring for you to see.
Sure, you might still go “well, it works for them, but probably not for
me”.
And that’s OK.
But that belief too will start to shift as you begin seeing real results
after applying this technique you’ll be guided through.
Like these people:

I don’t know about you, but I’m not a big fan of doing things that are boring.

Same goes for things that are really hard.

And I especially hate what universally sucks: Putting in effort and not getting any promised results.

Boring + hard + no results —> NO ACTION.

It’s why I did so poorly in school!

When something is interesting, easy, and gets me results however…

… I’m in!

Interesting + ease + results —> MASSIVE ACTION!

That’s why I’ve designed the 30 day challenge to provide exactly that. And based upon feedback from the last one, I think it went alright.

And I’m very happy I can provide this for you.

Because you can feel so hopeless and desperate when you have to do things that are really hard… That also don’t get any (lasting) results!

That’s what happened for me.

I faced my worst fears to try to overcome my social anxiety.

And if they had indeed helped me beat it…

… I’d probably now be writing: “you MUST face your fears!”

But that’s is NOT MY MESSAGE TO YOU AT ALL.

Why not?

Because facing my worst fears (I’ll share some of the crazy stories inside the challenge) only gave me a temporary boost of confidence.

Within a few days my confidence was gone, and I felt super anxious and insecure again.

Now forcing myself to face my fears was hard.

And that’s an understatement.

I mean, I couldn’t sleep days in advance of my ‘exposures’.

They were absolutely gut-wrenchingly horrible to do.

But I did them.

Because I expected it would help.

After all, every piece of literature told me it was the only way out of my fear.

And all these inspirational quotes are all about facing your fears. And getting outside of your freakin comfort zone…

So, I did it. And it was hard. And it sucked.

And results were poor (the heard-earned confidence left after a few days).

So, I looked for other ways.

The technique I eventually found after 5, 6 years of trying just about anything on the market…

(affirmations, Tony Robbins, NLP, hypnosis, timeline therapy, changing my thoughts, journaling, rehearsing conversations, social skills training, deep breathing, visualization, all the self help books and tapes on confidence available, etc etc etc)

… changed my life.

Cheesy statement, and it instantly makes me go “right, another one of those stories”…

… but it’s true.

Because I finally found something practical.

I could do it and actually let go of my fears, worries, and anxiety.

Which was amazing. I felt so empowered now that I could actually DO something.

And once I learned how to use it properly, it wasn't hard at all.

The most challenging thing was that I experienced negative emotions.

But hey - I experienced these from the comfort of my own home!

Same for you.

This challenge happens indoors.

Because you powerfully addresses your inner psychology. It releases your emotions, and shifts your limiting beliefs.

Now it’s not a total walk in the park. Don’t get me wrong.

It requires effort, persistence, dedication, and working through emotional ups- and downs.

But, this is an actual practical way to get rid of your anxiety.

Using this approach you can become completely anxiety-free.

I watched a documentary on Netflix the other day. And it was about anxiety. In the end one of the experts was asked “so can you cure anxiety?”

And his answer was something along the lines of

“rather than thinking of curing, we want to think of how to change our relationship with anxiety. It will never truly go away, but we can create a much better relationship with it”.

And man did that fire me up.

Because that’s SUCH an OUTDATED PERSPECTIVE!

He’s right in that you can create a much better relationship with your anxiety. And part of the challenge focuses on this.

But he’s wrong in saying that it cannot be overcome completely. In my personal experience, and professional experience, you can completely overcome it.

This is why I’m fighting the good fight, getting the news out there.

It’s part of the reason for why you have this f r e e challenge. To prove that it’s possible to beat your social anxiety completely.

You can completely overcome your social anxiety.

I’ve done it. Many of my coaching clients have (and again, you’ll see actual VIDEO TESTIMONIALS inside the challenge)…

… and you can too.

It might take some time. It won’t happen overnight. And even by the end of the 30 days you’re likely not totally social anxiety free.

BUT - you can make profound, life-changing progress within 30 days. All it takes is reading a daily email. And following along with a simple exercise on video.

15-30min/day.

All done from home!

Plus, you’ll learn about fascinating new concepts. You get to understand your social anxiety better than 99% of the psychologists out there. And you’ll actually get more control over your mental and emotional well being.

Many people commented that the ENJOYED the challenge. And that they normally finished any challenges, but now they did.

Here:

See I’ve done my best to make it entertaining. 

And interesting. 

And above all, something that gets you RESULTS. 

Day by day you’re going to feel more and more empowered. And the feeling that you can and will overcome your social anxiety will grow, bit by bit, day by day. 

The following is really hard to believe, I know, but:

This approach is both more gentle, and far more effective that forcefully facing your fears. 

And, you get faster results too, that are lasting. 

So while you’ve lost motivation doing other programs/things in the past. And you didn’t follow through… 

… is it at least possible that you might follow through this time?

30 days can feel like forever when you don’t like doing it.

But when you ENJOY it…

… you can’t wait to it and you don’t want it to end!

 All I’m inviting you to do…

… is to give it a committed try.

That’s all.

Nothing to lose.

And a reduction in your social anxiety, more confidence, more ease, more comfort being yourself to be gained.

January 1st, we launch!

Seb

After the last challenge I surveyed those who took the challenge. And I asked them why they thought nearly 40% didn’t start the challenge.

Here are some of the replies:

“They probably think there’s some hidden cost”

“They might feel that something is not alrigth“

“They thought they gonna paid to get access to some features”

“it seems to good to be true”

So let me just reassure you:

The 30 day challenge is completely f r e e.

I’m giving you the best I can within 30 days.

And it will rock your world. It’s nothing like you’ve ever experienced, anywhere, ever.

It’s also an introduction to my work, and the kinds of results I can help create, yes. And if you were to decide to need additional assistance after 30 days, this is available. At a cost.

But this isn’t some scheme to try to trick you into buying stuff.

I believe in “results first”. Because that way you can make a well-informed decision about whether additional support is of interest to you.

So these 30 days there is no selling whatsoever.

This is completely focused on getting you the best results in just a single month.

Another answer I got from the survey said this:

“Since it’s free it must not be that great, right?”

Let me answer that too:

I can wrap this challenge up and sell it as a $500 program. It’s easily that good.

Here’s a quick comment about this (we had 3044 comments last challenge!):

:-)

Seb

PS Hey, just because there are a lot of unethical people on the worldwide web…

… doesn’t mean everyone is a scammer. Right?

I’ve poured my heart into this challenge for you. I really hope you give it a try. It’s time we shift the perception of what it takes to overcome social anxiety. Join many of us on #TheJourneyToSocialConfidence

Quick story. 

When I found this technique and tried it, it actually didn’t work. 

But I had seen so many testimonials of it… read on forums about it… and had seen experts of it transform people’s issues right on screen…

… that I was determined to make it work for me. 

But despite that ‘thump-my-chest-self-motivation’ I also felt scared. 

“What if it doesn’t work for me?”

“What if it works for others, but not for me?”

“What if I’m just too messed up?”

And that fear stuck with me for months, as I tried and tried but got no real results.

I mean, I thought I felt a little better. But nothing like these profound changes I had seen on the DVD’s I bought. 

When I got back to Holland (I’m Dutch, but found out about this technique when I was in South Africa, working for IBM) I called a practitioner of the technique. 

He invited me to his workshop. 

And I was actually scared to go. Because I had been building this up in my mind as 
‘The Solution’ I’d been looking for SO MUCH… 

… that I was scared to lose that feeling of hope it had given me. 

I was thinking “if this doesn’t work, I’m fu*ked”

I was afraid to lose that hope. Because it felt lightyears better than the despair and hopelessness I experienced prior.

Now I ended up going, and had my world rocked (I’ll share what happened in day #1 of the challenge). But I’m sharing this with you because…

… sometimes people rather not take action on something that might work for them…

… rather than to take action and find out it doesn’t work. 

And while I totally get that kind of thinking, it would be such a shame for you to miss out on this opportunity.

Here are some people who had similar thoughts, but decided to go for it anyway:

When I suffered bad time, I’d spend an hour writing a simple text message. 

“What if I say the wrong thing?”
“Can this be misinterpreted?”
“Do I sound cool? “
“Does this come across needy or lame?”
“Will they it, or do I need to explain it clearer?”
“Can I send this already, or should I wait?”
“I hope he doesn’t get upset when I write this.”

Etc etc etc. 

And I’ve even debated hitting or not hitting a like button for ages. And then debating afterwards whether or not I made the right decision the whole day!

Madness!

So, I get it if you worry about being seen, heard, or recognized. 

But, you can actually choose to be anonymous. 
 No need to use a picture. Only use your first name (or heck, even use a fake name). 

And hey, if you never make any comments, you can participate completely anonymously!

It’s not necessary to make comments.

However, as you read everyone’s experience under the videos, and you can relate… and you go “OMG, these people are just like me, they get me”..

… you might be inspired to participate after all.