"I have had a massive improvement recently in my SA and I believe it is most likely down to tapping along to this coaching session. The causes of my SA are very different as expected but I think this cleared a lot of resistance for me. There's still improvement to be made but
I am so so grateful."
They can't do it on their own. Even if they've studied tapping and know it very well.
They're not able to clear the subconscious resistance to change.
They can't uncover and release their blind spots.
They end up going in circles and get STUCK.
And then think they're a tough case and worry "tapping doesn't work for me".
But in reality, they simply cannot resolve it on their own. They need outside help. But not everyone can afford that.
If this speaks to you, you're going to LOVE what I have available for you:
The 'Eliminate Your Fear Of Negative Judgment Coaching Series'.
These are five 90 min long replays of live coaching webinars I did with Mahsa.
All you do is watch the coaching sessions and tap along.
As you observe Mahsa's powerful transformation you'll have your own social anxiety issues triggered automatically. And as you tap along you get rid of your fear of judgment and massively reduce your social anxiety.
Watch as Mahsa releases her social anxiety step by step. Laugh and cry along. Experience powerful 'cognitive shifts'. Feel inspired by her beautiful transformation. And enjoy the massive relief from tapping along.
See Mahsa feel anxious and hear us talk openly about her SA issues. You relate to it even though yours are unique and different (yet very similar).
Your subconscious will link what’s going on with Mahsa to your issues. And as you tap along you release your stuff.
Even if you're already a tapping expert... there is a limit to what you can achieve on your own with tapping.
"Even the best surgeon can't remove his own appendix"
These sessions help you discover the subconscious blind spots in the way of your social ease. Which results in big breakthroughs on your journey.
"Hi Sebastiaan! First of all, I want to thank you for doing this, it's really amazing and it helped me a lot. Also huge thanks to Masha for being so courageous and strong and sharing herself, I admire that.Ā During this series I've realised many things that I haven't seen before (guess those are the 'cognitive shifts' you mentioned)), and it's been such an amazing experience for me. Just to notice what gets triggered in me during webinars is enlightening and maybe also a bit overwhelming (but I've tapped on that so I'm fine for now :D).Ā And then those shifts - for example I've never realised how much I was stuck or rather fused with my childhood garbage (you've dealt with that in the bonus video, just wanted to mention it) and just the idea of not having it felt so bad and weird, I'd feel even guilty. This was huge shift for me, cause i don't have to have it! And with your help I managed to release big part of the 'web' - the overal mood set and feelings from my childhood. And it feels so good and so liberating to not carry that around anymore. I'll still have to address specific memories, but now I have a mindset that it's possible to not have it and be okay. Really happy for that!Ā Another big shift for me was when you addressed the resistance to change, since that I really feel like it's possible, before I knew it but now I kind of feel it, it feels like no problem actually haha.Ā What also really hit home was when you tapped on acknowledging emotions because I tend to follow a pattern of avoiding and repressing them, so after that tapping I felt another shift. I realised that large part of my resistance is usually to avoid negative feelings such as sadness and pain (like I have to deal with fear of them very often when I tap).Ā Anyway, these past few days I've been able to not feel anxious during few social situations where I'd get very anxious (I was even shocked when the anxiety didn't show up haha) and that's huge improvement for me and it motivates me a lot.Ā So once again, thank you very much for what you're doing, I really appreciate it))"
Since you’re probably skeptical that this can actually help you, allow me to share how this social anxiety coaching series came about...
... so I can DEMONSTRATE exactly how this will help you too (even if nothing has worked until now - there is a reason for that).
I am a former social anxiety disorder sufferer.
I dealt with severe social anxiety for nearly 20 years.
In social situations my heart raced a million miles an hour. I often had a lump in my throat. And I was constantly trying to avoid blushing, or them seeing me anxious.
I couldn’t look people in the eye.
Deep down I felt really ashamed of who I was. I felt "not good enough". And that there was
"something wrong with me”.
But I didn't know what…
I just knew I was terrified of embarrassing myself. And I blushed at the drop of a hat. Conversations about sex, looks, dating, or intimacy would make my face go bright red.
When women were around I felt insecure and inferior. Like a little boy. And “cool” people made me super anxious.
But also around strangers I was highly anxious. Even if I didn't have to interact with them. I was constantly worried what others thought of me. I knew it ultimately didn’t matter, but my logic didn’t stop me from feeling anxious.
I of course tried to act cool and like everything was fine, but inside I was cringing.
I woke up worrying about becoming anxious and others seeing it... ... and I went to bed feeling horrible about the social disasters of the day.
I was terrified of my “reputation” and dreaded upcoming social situations. Especially ones where I couldn’t get out of it, and I’d be at risk of being the center of attention.
Life was very difficult. I tried to avoid situations where I would get anxious. And when I had to go to an event, I came home drained, exhausted from keeping up 'the act'.
I feared I'd be anxious for the rest of my life.
That I would not be able to hold a job, that I'd forever be single, and that I'd end up a miserable and pathetic loser.
...
At age 17 I discovered personal development and this was very exciting (at first). "I can take control of my emotions and become confident!"
I started doing affirmations, visualizations, hypnosis, NLP, changing my thoughts, and facing my fears.
I did the craziest things to face my fears that absolutely terrified me.
Like purposely getting myself rejected (walking up to women and saying “hey you like me, give me your number”) so I could become 'rejection-proof'.
Or facing my worst fear (of embarrassment): Putting bright red lipstick on my lips and making circles around my eyes and then starting conversations with people in a busy city...
I did a lot more, from approaching groups of women to public speaking, high five-ing strangers, and all sorts of 'comfort challenges'. And it all worked:
I felt more confident after it. But the confidence didn’t last...
Within days I was just as anxious as before.
I now know I failed to get rid of my social anxiety long term because I was trying to get rid of the symptoms of social anxiety...
... rather than what triggers the symptoms in the first place (more about this in just a sec).
In 2006 I found EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) - a silly looking tapping technique to rapidly release negative emotions connected to thoughts, beliefs, and memories.
And after overcoming my initial skepticism ("yeah right, how can tapping on my face ever make me feel better, this must be a scam") …
… I decided to give EFT tapping a committed try. One of the best decisions of my life.
I went to an EFT workshop and got to work with an EFT therapist. He asked me some challenging questions to get me in tune with my emotions: “How’s your love life?”
And I was now confessing in front of everyone at the workshop that I didn’t have a girlfriend, or I didn’t have sex in a long time.
I instantly felt heat rising and I was full on blushing. I felt massively embarrassed, ashamed, humiliated and anxious.
As he then guided my tapping (telling me what to think about, what to focus on, and what to say) the bad feelings released rapid quick.
Within 5 minutes of tapping I felt totally calm, peaceful, and at ease. I could hardly believe it.
I could now talk freely about not having sex/girlfriend and I felt totally fine.
I couldn’t bring any of the shame, anxiety and so on back. Not even when trying my hardest.
This profound shift changed my life, because now I knew there was something I could use to overcome my social anxiety problem.
I’ve since used tapping to overcome my social anxiety. This took me years and required lots help from brilliant therapists.
And I’ve now thankfully been calm, confident and at ease socially for a long time. I connect with people effortlessly, am present and in the moment, freely and spontaneously speak my mind, and I enjoy a satisfying social life with great friends.
I’ve even become a Latin dance lover these days and dance in front of crowds. Something unimaginable to me back then.
My life isn't perfect and I have problems like anyone, but 'social ease' is now something that feels normal to me.
After overcoming most of my social anxiety, I began coaching. I’ve been coaching socially anxious clients since October 2009 and I've been obsessed with solving social anxiety for my clients in the most effective way.
I've consumed the programs of the top EFT Master therapists and worked 1 on 1 with them, applying anything I found suitable to my clients. I certified myself in other modalities like NLP, PSYCH-K, Pro-EFT, SET, and Matrix Re-imprinting.
I experienced just about any imaginable healing modality out there, and studied and applied many of them. I read the top SA books and consumed other popular social anxiety methods. I studied any psychology, neuroscience, and personal development that might help me or my clients.
I've received hundreds of hours of mentoring. I've taken online workshops as well as live workshops in 6 different countries in 3 continents. And I have on a weekly basis continued my own personal growth through working with my high level coach Julia Reed, and my mentor (psychotherapist and tapping expert) Dr David Lake.
And thanks to this...
Because I discovered the REAL cause of social anxiety, and learned how to use tapping to get rid of it.
See - anxiety only happens once our subconscious mind perceives a threat.
When this happens, our amygdala (a small almond sized part of our midbrain) activates the fight, flight, freeze (FFF) response.
This FFF response puts our whole system instantly into 'survival mode'.
Hormones like cortisol and adrenaline get released into our blood stream. Our heart rate increases. Saliva production stops. Our pupils dilate. Blood moves away from our head and digestive system to our arms and legs...
... and our system is now optimally energized to deal with the threat.
So you can FIGHT the threat with all your power, FLEE as fast as possible or FREEZE (play dead) if you can't do either.
So the racing heart, tightness in chest, lump in throat, imagining worst case scenarios, etc...
... all these "social anxiety symptoms" are nothing but the results of the activation of the FFF response.
Anxiety in social situations is merely the result of the FFF response activation.
Which ONLY happens when the subconscious perceives a threat.
No perception of threat = no FFF activation. No FFF activation = no social anxiety.
The perception of threat is caused by limiting beliefs (like 'I'm not good enough', 'people don't like me',
'I have to do everything right and can't make mistakes').
And these beliefs are learned: as a result of cultural, religious, and societal conditioning. But most often the strongest limiting beliefs come as a result of the repetitive negative experiences in early childhood, and life's traumas.
From this limiting beliefs (emotionalized thoughts) were formed. And these are responsible for the current perception of threat.
And these beliefs are very difficult to change by mere logic, reasoning, and forcing yourself to face your fears.
Why that is?
Because you've gathered emotional evidence to prove the validity of your limiting beliefs.
Your subconscious has emotional reference experiences from the past to point to. It learned you are not good enough when your mom criticized you. Or when you got bullied. Or when you failed. Or when you got rejected. Or...
Now you might say "I am good good enough" over and over, or you might come up with good logical reasons for why you ARE good enough...
But the emotional evidence of "not being good enough" is much stronger than your logic.
Emotion wins from logic any time.
Strongly held limiting beliefs won't shift if you don't release the emotions connected to them.
Reasoning can be helpful when you have irrational thinking, but you won't logic your way out of your social anxiety.
You know this is true if you've ever tried to talk yourself out of your anxiety (if this worked you'd be anxiety-free by now).
You can repeat logical statements, challenge automatic negative thoughts, and face your fears all day long, but it at best only decreases your anxiety.
It doesn't undo the past programming. It only builds new beliefs on top (that is IF you do it right).
But that's as the saying goes "adding whipped cream to a dog turd".
There is value in challenging unhelpful thoughts, and being mindful. I do it myself, recommend it to my clients, and provide exercises for it.
But it's helpful only to a (small) degree.
Why?
Because it only addresses the cognitive side of the problem. Which is MINOR compared to the emotional side of the social anxiety problem.
And that is because SOCIAL ANXIETY IS MOSTLY AN EMOTIONAL PROBLEM.
Cognitive approaches will never solve your social anxiety because they do not get rid of the perception of threat completely.
But here's the good news:
Beliefs are nothing more than thoughts that have strong emotion connected to it.
And with tapping, we can release this emotion, and get rid of the beliefs.
Very quickly, as you can see in my coaching sessions with Mahsa.
As we release the beliefs responsible for the perception of threat, your subconscious no longer needs to warn you about danger (cause it sees none).
Now you feel safe being yourself socially. Now you feel comfortable and at ease around others.
You find many video testimonials of former clients who overcame their social anxiety on my Youtube channel. I started it in 2009. And now has nearly 3 million views.
And in 2016 I launched my Social Anxiety Solutions podcast in iTunes (has since been downloaded
< 800 000 times). And the psychologists, coaches, healers, PhD doctors and psychotherapists I interview here also rave about the power of tapping.
August 2018 (after 9 years of coaching) I decided to take things to the next level: work with groups of socially anxious people.
I started the first ever Social Confidence Community.
One key element of our community was me doing live coaching webinars with our members.
I would take a volunteer and do a normal 1 on 1 coaching session. And I'd help that person release the biggest social anxiety issue they had.
And as we tapped together, everyone else could watch us and tap along.
This turned out to be one of the main reasons people had life-transforming breakthroughs.
One of the other key elements of the community was the drip fed tapping lessons I shared with people.
Some of the key lessons I decided to put into a smaller online program: ’Create Incredible Emotional Control’. And as a bonus for this program I decided to do a live webinar with one of the people who purchased the product.
That person would have to be OK with me using the recording later inside the product.
This is how me and Mahsa met (she's the woman I coach in the coaching series).
In our little pre-interview Mahsa told me about her social anxiety troubles. And I could relate to all she was describing. What she told me I had heard other clients describe many, many times.
She said she had tried to change for years and years. She had tried many things, seen a therapist for many years, and nothing would help.
She wrote this in her client form to apply for the free live webinar coaching session:
In that same client form I asked her to write down her goal of social ease.
And then what limiting beliefs came up for her as she thought about achieving this social ease. Mahsa wrote the following 4 limiting beliefs:
As I read this I knew Mashsa had done a lot, but failed to get any results for a clear reason.
It's why pretty much everyone fails to overcome their social anxiety:
The self help books and therapy was working on a 'cognitive level'...
... but social anxiety is for the most part an EMOTIONAL PROBLEM.
And tapping works to release emotions. So after our intro chat I told her I could help her her and we were both excited. So I coached her over this live coaching series.
Mahsa started with a massive breakthrough, at the end of our first 90min coaching session:
"First off I want to say thank you again for sitting with me and helping me work through my resistance and my āchildhood garbage.ā Watching this back was very therapeutic and I noticed very little attachment to the parts that made me emotional before... itās almost like Iām watching a completely different personās story being told. The fact that I can feel so separate from the sadness and hopelessness that I was SO used to experiencing is huge because I have been working the last... 8 years... on the exact issue of being able to release and move on from my past. Itās the reason I began studying psychology when I first started college. And the reason Iāve been in therapy myself for the last 5 years. Iām still in awe that I could release so much emotion in so little time and Iām grateful to you for gently guiding me through the process. Even though Iām nowhere near done with my overcoming social anxiety journey, it feels like a huge weight off my shoulders to be able to start from a more neutral place instead of constantly backtracking to try to undo all the damage that was done in the past. Now I can focus on healing the present situation and building confidence and courage from here. Itās still surprising to me how quickly EFT (tapping) can speed things along. The trauma really does rest inside the body and once it has a way to move out, itās fully OUT. It feels silly to think about how attached to it I had become after so many years. I thought my pain would always be a part of me. THANK YOU!!! You are amazing and you really have a way of making people feel comfortable and safe."
Now at the start of our coaching session I had told everyone watching us to tap along throughout the whole webinar.
And to repeat what I had Mahsa repeat.
Since the social anxiety issues are very similar, and they can relate to Mahsa’s pain, suffering, and anxiety, their mirror neurons would fire.
Their social anxiety issues would get triggered, and the tapping would bring them relief too.
Just by tapping along with Mahsa they would get relief on their social anxiety issues.
Their subconscious would link it to their issues, and the tapping would release the issues.
Here are some comments from under that 1st video:
"Hi, This was actually a very emotional video for me to watch. Not because my root cause of my social anxiety is the same as Mahsa's but because I could relate to the emotional pain she was experiencing. I cried several times watching this video and tapping along with it because I felt a lot of sadness during the session. It somehow opened up a lot of emotional pain that I have stored in my body. At the same time I also felt relief as the session progressed, as though I was able to let go of some of my pain. It was very helpful. Thank you to both Mahsa for being so brave and to Sebastiaan for being an amazing therapist. Lea"
"Thank you so much for posting this and to Mahsa for being so brave. I have had a massive improvement recently in my SA and I believe it is most likely down to tapping along to this session. The causes of my SA are very different as expected but I think this cleared a lot of resistance for me. There's still improvement to be made but I am so so grateful."
After our initial session I had a good grasp on what Mahsa’s issue was. And I knew I could help her overcome it. Because while the roots of her issue are of course different as every person is unique and every issue is unique…
… there are A LOT OF SIMILARITIES.
One of her biggest issues was what -according to a poll I sent to my whole email list- the no#1 most common social fear:
Fear of negative judgment.
And I knew that if I started coaching her on this and others would tap along with it, just like I had done in the community, many people would benefit.
And we’d not only address her fear of judgment, but other key social anxiety issues too.
And so I asked her if she was interested in doing a coaching series.
Thankfully, courageous Mahsa said yes.
The page you’re reading now is the end results of this.
I've recorded the live webinars and put them all in one place for you to easily consume. Watching the replays is just as effective as seeing them live.
A single 1 on 1 coaching session with me is $250,-
So if you were to work with me 5x $250 would set you back $1250
But since I can leverage these sessions you get all 5 of them for less than the price of a single coaching session: $99
This gives you access to all the 5 live webinars, forever. You can get started in minutes from now.
I know it’s hard to believe that something can actually work to overcome your social anxiety.
And I also know some of you might feel uncomfortable asking for a refund.
And I want you to be able try these tap-along coaching videos totally RISK-FREE.
(and you can even watch the first of the 5 coaching replays totally for free, here)
So here's what you do:
Try out 'Eliminate the fear of judgment coaching series' for a full 60 days and if it doesn't benefit you, all you have to do is email me for a refund.
And the refund process is straightforward and easy.
No tricks. I have a solid reputation online. I have been online since 2008. And my first ever Youtube video is from 2009. Plus you find me weekly releasing a new video on Youtube.
I have a good reputation and intend to keep it that way. I only want you to pay if you get results. And if you have social anxiety alone, I feel very confident you'll get great results.
If you don't get results, I will instantly give you a full refund.
All it takes is a simple email saying "hey Seb, this didn't work for me".
No questions asked, no hassle.
You literally have nothing to risk.
I don't know what you've tried before.
What I do know is that if it didn't work, there are reasons for that.
And for more than 90% of people the general reason for tapping not working is this:
You haven't tapped on the right targets in the right way yet.
To get into more detail...
Most people - even those who studied tapping and are great at it- get relief with tapping. They make good progress. -But- they then eventually hit a plateau...
While other people tap and don't get much (if any) results in the first place (I was one of them).
And nobody actually resolves their social anxiety on their own!
Why not?
Because you can’t be doctor and patient at the same time.
And I think it’s EFT Master Lindsay Kenny who says:
“Even the best surgeon in the world can’t remove his own appendix”.
So what's the problem here?
BLIND SPOTS!
You remember what they are, right?
Let me refresh your memory:
‘Blind spots’ are the subconscious habitual patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving, as well as the limiting beliefs and emotional memories we aren’t conscious of ourselves.
In other words: We can't find the right targets to tap on. Our subconscious hides them from us out of protection. So we are consciously blind to what we need to tap on most!
And because of these blind spots…
In short: Because of these blind spots you at some point in your journey get STUCK.
Either at the start already.
Or later once you hit that plateau.
A plateau might be:
Etc.
And when you plateau, you need outside help to move past your blind spot.
And with outside help I'm talking about an experienced tapping therapist.
But guess what, during these coaching sessions with Mahsa I uncover and release all of her blindspots. And they're all very common ones, I see them all the time.
So as you watch and tap along (you can get the first coaching session totally for FREE here) you'll discover your blind spots and move past them too.
So you stop being stuck, and tapping finally starts to work for you.
Or you finally move past your plateau and make massive progress on your journey to social ease.
Further, the other main reason people fail to create a real breakthrough is because they're not able to overcome the subconscious resistance to change.
This was the same for Masha. Which is why in coaching session #3 we spend the whole 90min on uncovering and moving past her subconscious resistance.
Which you can tap along with and release your resistance. And even if you don't release it all, you'll see how I do it, and you can then uncover and release whatever might be left in an easy and simple way.
Mahsa reported a profound shift at the start of session #4, just from having tapped on resistance in the previous coaching session.
She said "it's been amazing, I could just be in a place without worrying about what others were thinking".
So in conclusion: You didn't get results before because you didn't tap in the right way on the right targets. Watching the coaching videos assists you in doing exactly this.
“But my issues are unique and different."
You're right: your issues are unique and different.
But not that different.
Even though the root cause of your issues are different from Mahsa's, how social anxiety shows up for people is very similar.
I've done over 5000 hours of coaching sessions in the past decade and I hear the same things over and over and over (which is why I figured these tap-along coaching sessions would be so helpful).
When you watch Mahsa on screen reveal her issues...
... your subconscious will go on a search for how this relates to your issues.
And as you tap along with Mahsa and repeat what I have her repeat, you start releasing your issues.
This is a well-known phenomenon in EFT land. It’s given the name ‘borrowing benefits’ (though this is better than borrowing benefits, this is 'BB on steroids', more in a sec).
In EFT land it was discovered that simply watching someone else tap on their issues, while tapping along with them, can help you reduce the emotional intensity of your own issues. And produce lasting change.
Here's what Dawson Church, PhD writes:
"There are a few studies done on 'borrowing benefits'. The first study to examine this phenomenon was performed by Jack Rowe, PhD, then a professor at Texas A&M University. He examined the mental health of 108 people attending an EFT weekend workshop. He tested them a month before the workshop, and immediately before, and found that their levels were unchanged. But after the workshop, they had improved dramatically, even though they were watching sessions performed onstage. They retained a part of the improvement when Dr. Rowe tested them at subsequent intervals. The Rowe study was replicated and extended in a second study by a research team that included me (Dawson Church, PhD) and Audrey Brooks, PhD, a professor at the Psychology department of the University of Arizona at Tucson. We looked at mental health symptoms in 218 healthcare professionals such as doctors, nurses, psychotherapists, chiropractors, and alternative medicine practitioners. The subjects were attendees at 5 professional conferences who attended a one-day EFT workshop. At one of the conferences, EFT was offered by one EFT expert, and at the other 4 by Dawson Church. Participant mental health improved significantly at all 5 conferences. As we measured the participants' symptoms during a follow-up period, we discovered that they retained most of their gains. A later replication of the study examined workshops taught by EFT Masters, such as Ann Adams, Loretta Sparks, and Carol Look. It reinforced the same findings, and showed that EFT is effective regardless of which EFT expert offers the workshop. This makes three studies to measure the effects of EFT in hundreds of people, and provides compelling evidence for the effectiveness of Borrowing Benefits. "Significant improvements in psychological symptoms from pre- to post-workshop assessments, with significant participant gains maintained on follow-up. The results indicate that EFT may be effective at reducing psychological symptoms when delivered by individuals other than the method’s founder and that EFT may reliably improve long-term mental health when delivered in brief group treatments.”
Now you might say:
"I've tried tapping along with other EFT sessions and it didn't work."
And if so, I get it. But possibly, this was because your SA issue is too large no notice much or any benefit. And you weren't specific enough. You couldn't relate that well.
Now it's true that borrowing benefits can happen when you tap along with people who have different issues that yours.
Which is what happened in these 3 studies that were done.
But with these tap-along webinars with Mahsa we have
A MASSIVE EXTRA BENEFIT:
We can all relate!
Because SA issues are all very, very similar. As you can see in the many testimonials on this page.
So when you watch Mahsa on screen you can relate to her issues. Most often consciously, pretty much always subconsciously.
So now your mirror neurons are firing. You connect to the thoughts and feelings. And as you tap along you're addressing your own issues too.
We trigger so many aspects of your social anxiety issues, that we can get quite specific.
It powerfully works, as evidenced by the many testimonials (which are direct copies of comments made under the coaching videos).
Still in doubt? Tap along with the first coaching session I did with Mahsa here (totally FREE).
Get an experience of it yourself and see what happens!
I know right?
There's so much information out there these days. I have tons of books on my kindle app I will "one day read". And products on my hard drive I'll never use.
If I start a product and it doesn't instantly grab my attention and hook me, I'll probably never return to it.
BUT -
Some products I do start immediately, because they're very relevant to me.
And if they are important to me, they hook me, and it's not too complex, I'll finish them.
Now if something is important to you...
... it instantly grabs your attention, and hooks you...
... it's super easy to consume...
... and it brings you rapid relief (in less than an hour) on the biggest problem in your life...
... might it be possible that you will continue watching this?
You should be nodding your head now ;-)
See, this is VERY different from anything you've ever purchased.
We don't complete things when...
... they're boring.
... too difficult
... not important (enough)
Getting rid of your social anxiety is VERY IMPORTANT to you.
And watching these webinars and tapping along couldn't be more easy.
And best of all, they are VERY ENTERTAINING.
100% of people watching the live webinars stayed on for the full 90min coaching sessions.
Because these sessions are filled with laughter, tears, insights, lessons, cognitive shifts, fascinating stories, relatable emotions and thoughts and so much more.
You'll love this.
And if you have any doubt, watch the first one for free, here.
The goal of the SCS and this coaching series is the same: Release social anxiety and feel socially confident and at ease.
But the way of accomplishing this outcome is totally different.
The coaching series are a fantastic add-on to the SCS that will really make a difference for you.
It helps you release your social anxiety a lot faster.
In fact, I would focus on watching these coaching sessions first, and then return to the SCS afterwards (if necessary).
For many reasons.
See, many people report great results with the SCS. But the main obstacle I’ve heard from other people is that they get stuck, loose motivation, or become overwhelmed.
They try to push themselves, and say
"I have to first get the SCS to work before I try something else"
Or
"if I don't do the SCS, I won't do this either"
And yet they don't take consistent action.
And that is because these statements are a sign of them not moving past the resistance.
Or not being able to get (lasting) results on their own.
These coaching webinars are the perfect solution to this.
They are the antidote to being stuck, feeling overwhelmed, and having no motivation.
Why?
Because you will actually see Mahsa get rid of her social anxiety right in front of your own eyes.
This is incredibly motivating and inspiring.
You see her have social anxiety on the webinar, and watch me help her release it step-by-step (you won’t find this anywhere!)
So you don’t just hear me talk about it being possible like in the SCS…
… you don’t just get the instructions on how to do it, like in the SCS….
… You actually SEE it happening right in front of your eyes. AND all you have to do is simply tap along and your subconscious does the rest.
You see how tapping heals Mahsa’s old deep wounds quickly and gently.
You watch her go from anxious to calm. From sad and hurt to relieved and happy. From insecure, ashamed and ‘small and insignificant’ to
“I feel great now, equal, and very peaceful”.
You’ll observe her shifts lifelong beliefs like ‘I’m not good enough’ and ‘I’m unworthy’.
You’ll feel excited as you see her empowerment happening.
And in later webinars you’ll hear her share the powerful positive changes that have happened in her life as a result of the previous webinars.
Seeing this -combined with tapping along- leads you to going from skeptical and hopeless…
… to really believing on a feeling level that you can and will become socially at ease.
Further, these webinars are actually enjoyable to watch.
I know, hard to believe right?
But my style of tapping is very different than you might have seen from other tapping experts, or even from guided tap-alongs.
The entertaining sessions with Mahsa (100% of people watching the live webinars stayed on for the full 90min coaching sessions) are filled with laughter, tears, insights, lessons, cognitive shifts, fascinating stories, relatable emotions, limiting beliefs, thoughts, and so much more.
And, it’s super easy to release your SA - just watch and tap along.
So instead of being stuck and feeling frustrated and having to push yourself to do your inner work, simply hit play and tap along.
This is really the easiest way to transform your inner world.
Because it’s super simple.
You don’t have to dig in your own past. Memories, thoughts, and feelings will automatically come up for you as your subconscious “connects the dots”.
Mahsa’s issues will trigger your social anxiety issues, and the tapping releases this.
You’ll release your painful past, process stuck negative emotions, heal emotional wounds, shift negative limiting beliefs, and change unhelpful thinking habits.
So you feel more relaxed, calm, confident and at ease socially.
Further, you get to eavesdrop in on the conversations about experiencing social anxiety between an ex-sufferer (me) and Mahsa who at that moment experiences it.
Your “secret” is now discussed by us. This kind of openness you’ve probably never experienced. It makes you go “wow, that’s just like me” and it fosters (self) acceptance.
As you relate to Mahsa’s thoughts and feelings you no longer feel you’re alone in this. You’re no longer feeling like you’re the only one dealing with this difficult problem. And you’ll realize your thoughts, feelings and behaviors don’t make you weird or crazy after all.
You’ll feel understood and supported on your journey to social ease.
And best of all, as you tap along with me guiding Mahsa through her non-acceptance, you release these negative emotions and self-judgments ABOUT your social anxiety. Which leads to…
… stopping your worry about what people think of you and taking yourself less seriously.
But wait, it gets even better:
You also discover and release subconscious blind spots.
Watching this you’ll gain massive insights into your own issues that you wouldn’t be able to uncover on your own.
You’ll move past your blocks so you get un-stuck, move past your sticking points, and make rapid progress towards social ease.
And, you discover the common blocks that stop tapping from working. And see me help Mahsa beyond them easily and quickly.
So you either move past them as you tap along. Or you’ll know how to do the same for your blocks.
It also makes you become much better at tapping on your own as you see me work with her.
You’ll discover what to do when “it doesn’t work”. Find new angles to use tapping, more efficient aspects to tap on (tap on a key aspect using a specific strategy and have tens of other aspects collapse all at once).
So you save a lot of wasted time and reduce your social anxiety much faster.
And, you learn 3 new techniques that are often more effective than tapping. You’ll see me use several techniques that are super powerful and yet very simple.
After seeing me use them a few times you can use them yourself. And they often work faster than tapping (which is why I use them)
And finally, you create lasting results through overcoming your resistance to change.
Live webinar #3 is pretty much completely focused on helping Mahsa overcome her subconscious resistance to change. And to get her to feel she really can and will create permanent change.
Tapping along with this will reduce/eliminate your self sabotage as well so you can create lasting social ease in your life.
So…
YES - These coaching sessions are a fantastic add on to the SCS and will really help you release your social anxiety faster.
And if you’re still in doubt, try the first coaching webinar for free here.
The 5 live webinars with Mahsa already happened.
So what you're purchasing are the replays recordings of these.
Which works just as effective as attending live. And they are yours to eep forever, so you can watch them at any time in the comfort of your own home.
Yes.
CIEC and these coaching series are the perfect combo.
When you own CIEC you already have access to the first coaching webinar I did with Mahsa. You can find it in your BONUS section.
The 'Eliminate your fear of judgment coaching series' are the 4 live webinar recordings I did with her afterwards.
And they are a fantastic add-on to CIEC that will really make a difference for you.
It helps you release your social anxiety a lot faster.
Why?
Because you will actually see Mahsa get rid of her social anxiety right in front of your own eyes.
This is incredibly motivating and inspiring.
You see her have social anxiety on the webinar, and watch me help her release it step-by-step (you won’t find this anywhere!)
So you don’t just get the instructions on how to do it, like in CIEC….
… You actually SEE it happening right in front of your eyes. AND all you have to do is simply tap along and your subconscious does the rest.
You see how tapping heals Mahsa’s old deep wounds quickly and gently.
You watch her go from anxious to calm. From sad and hurt to relieved and happy. From insecure, ashamed and ‘small and insignificant’ to
“I feel great now, equal, and very peaceful”.
You’ll observe her shifts lifelong beliefs like ‘I’m not good enough’ and ‘I’m unworthy’.
You’ll feel excited as you see her empowerment happening.
And in later webinars you’ll hear her share the powerful positive changes that have happened in her life as a result of the previous webinars.
Seeing this -combined with tapping along- leads you to going from skeptical and hopeless…
… to really believing on a feeling level that you can and will become socially at ease.
Further, these webinars are actually enjoyable to watch.
I know, hard to believe right?
But my style of tapping is very different than you might have seen from other tapping experts, or even from guided tap-alongs.
The entertaining sessions with Mahsa (100% of people watching the live webinars stayed on for the full 90min coaching sessions) are filled with laughter, tears, insights, lessons, cognitive shifts, fascinating stories, relatable emotions, limiting beliefs, thoughts, and so much more.
And, it’s super easy to release your SA - just watch and tap along.
So instead of being stuck and feeling frustrated and having to push yourself to do your inner work, simply hit play and tap along.
This is really the easiest way to transform your inner world.
Because it’s super simple.
You don’t have to dig in your own past. Memories, thoughts, and feelings will automatically come up for you as your subconscious “connects the dots”.
Mahsa’s issues will trigger your social anxiety issues, and the tapping releases this.
You’ll release your painful past, process stuck negative emotions, heal emotional wounds, shift negative limiting beliefs, and change unhelpful thinking habits.
So you feel more relaxed, calm, confident and at ease socially.
Further, you get to eavesdrop in on the conversations about experiencing social anxiety between an ex-sufferer (me) and Mahsa who at that moment experiences it.
Your “secret” is now discussed by us. This kind of openness you’ve probably never experienced. It makes you go “wow, that’s just like me” and it fosters (self) acceptance.
As you relate to Mahsa’s thoughts and feelings you no longer feel you’re alone in this. You’re no longer feeling like you’re the only one dealing with this difficult problem. And you’ll realize your thoughts, feelings and behaviors don’t make you weird or crazy after all.
You’ll feel understood and supported on your journey to social ease.
And best of all, as you tap along with me guiding Mahsa through her non-acceptance, you release these negative emotions and self-judgments ABOUT your social anxiety. Which leads to…
… stopping your worry about what people think of you and taking yourself less seriously.
But wait, it gets even better:
You also discover and release subconscious blind spots.
Watching this you’ll gain massive insights into your own issues that you wouldn’t be able to uncover on your own.
You’ll move past your blocks so you get un-stuck, move past your sticking points, and make rapid progress towards social ease.
And, you discover the common blocks that stop tapping from working. And see me help Mahsa beyond them easily and quickly.
So you either move past them as you tap along. Or you’ll know how to do the same for your blocks.
It also makes you become much better at tapping on your own as you see me work with her.
You’ll discover what to do when “it doesn’t work”. Find new angles to use tapping, more efficient aspects to tap on (tap on a key aspect using a specific strategy and have tens of other aspects collapse all at once).
So you save a lot of wasted time and reduce your social anxiety much faster.
And, you learn 3 new techniques that are often more effective than tapping. You’ll see me use several techniques that are super powerful and yet very simple.
After seeing me use them a few times you can use them yourself. And they often work faster than tapping (which is why I use them)
And finally, you create lasting results through overcoming your resistance to change.
Live webinar #3 is pretty much completely focused on helping Mahsa overcome her subconscious resistance to change. And to get her to feel she really can and will create permanent change.
Tapping along with this will reduce/eliminate your self sabotage as well so you can create lasting social ease in your life.
So…
YES - These coaching sessions are a fantastic add on to 'Create Incredible Emotional Control' and will really help you release your social anxiety faster.
I strongly expect the results you achieve to be lasting. I’ll share why in a moment.
And I also want to be 100% transparent:
Since I recorded these session in Aug/September 2019 and I’m writing this pretty much directly after, I cannot tell you this with absolute certainty.
However, I base my positive expectation of lasting change on the following:
1. I ran my Social Confidence Community last year. And it was a big success. People reported profound lasting change:
Severely reduced social anxiety, anxiety-free in certain situations, a much deeper level of social ease, improved mood overall, not worried about what others think, improved self esteem and self acceptance, more easy going, positive behavioral changes like creating new social networks and starting new jobs, and much more.
The community consisted of 2 main elements, and a forum. The two key elements were drip-fed tapping lessons and live coaching webinars.
So the live webinars made up a huge part of the community.
And people report lasting results as a result of participating with this community.
2. In the coaching webinars with Mahsa we did several very helpful things…
We created an emotional shift in the meaning she had associated to social anxiety - resulting in an improved relationship with anxiety. We released self-judgments.
This helped acceptance of anxiety, which in turn causes anxiety symptoms to no longer trigger a stronger fight, flight freeze response. Acceptance of Self resulted in no longer beating herself up, and being more self-compassionate.
This stopped the vicious anxiety cycle.
We created a psychologically healthy mindset towards change - which minimized her suffering.
We uncovered subconscious blind spots and helped her become aware of them, and move past them.
We communicated and tapped with disowned parts, which reconnected her with more of herself and made her more solid, congruent, and grounded.
We processed old stuck emotions - which created more inner peace.
We got rid of experiences that hurt her self esteem, and released beliefs like ‘I’m not good enough’ ‘I’m not worthy’ and ‘they won’t like me’. We made her feel good about herself and like herself. Which makes it safer to “present herself” to others.
We released old trauma - so she stopped re-living the past and she can remain present and in the moment.
We got rid of painful memories so her brain no longer uses these as a resource to predict future social scenarios.
Subconscious resistance was made blatantly obvious. We then uncovered it and helped her let go off it. So self sabotage is minimized and lasting change can happen.
Limiting beliefs forming the perception of threat socially being eliminated at their roots - so your brain no longer perceives threat where there is none
Her self image was changed, so she no longer sees herself as an anxious victim, and sees herself as she truly is. So it feels safe and right to authentically be herself.
And more…
And after my 10 years of coaching socially anxious clients, I know from a lot of experience and successes my clients have had that this leads to lasting change.
And, tapping along with this has produced profound changes in those who have tapped along, as you can see in some of the testimonials shared on this page.
It’s likely these are permanent changes, also because…
3. Research done on “borrowing benefits” shows lasting results.
In the EFT tapping world it was discovered that simply watching someone else tap on their issues, while tapping along with them, can help you reduce the emotional intensity of your own issues. And produce lasting change.
This was given the name “borrowing benefits”. And it is a well-known phenomenon in EFT tapping land.
Here's what Dawson Church, PhD writes:
"There are a few studies done on 'borrowing benefits'. The first study to examine this phenomenon was performed by Jack Rowe, PhD, then a professor at Texas A&M University. He examined the mental health of 108 people attending an EFT weekend workshop. He tested them a month before the workshop, and immediately before, and found that their levels were unchanged. But after the workshop, they had improved dramatically, even though they were watching sessions performed onstage. They retained a part of the improvement when Dr. Rowe tested them at subsequent intervals. The Rowe study was replicated and extended in a second study by a research team that included me (Dawson Church, PhD) and Audrey Brooks, PhD, a professor at the Psychology department of the University of Arizona at Tucson. We looked at mental health symptoms in 218 healthcare professionals such as doctors, nurses, psychotherapists, chiropractors, and alternative medicine practitioners. The subjects were attendees at 5 professional conferences who attended a one-day EFT workshop. At one of the conferences, EFT was offered by one EFT expert, and at the other 4 by Dawson Church. Participant mental health improved significantly at all 5 conferences. As we measured the participants' symptoms during a follow-up period, we discovered that they retained most of their gains. A later replication of the study examined workshops taught by EFT Masters, such as Ann Adams, Loretta Sparks, and Carol Look. It reinforced the same findings, and showed that EFT is effective regardless of which EFT expert offers the workshop. This makes three studies to measure the effects of EFT in hundreds of people, and provides compelling evidence for the effectiveness of Borrowing Benefits. "Significant improvements in psychological symptoms from pre- to post-workshop assessments, with significant participant gains maintained on follow-up. The results indicate that EFT may be effective at reducing psychological symptoms when delivered by individuals other than the method’s founder and that EFT may reliably improve long-term mental health when delivered in brief group treatments.”
So people report lasting results with the set up described in the research studies mentioned above.
People in these studies however, tapped along with people who had different issues that theirs.
But with these tap-along webinars with Mahsa we have A MASSIVE EXTRA BENEFIT:
We can all relate!
Because SA issues are all very, very similar.
I therefore like to think of this set up as ‘borrowing benefits on steroids’.
Because when you watch Mahsa on screen you can relate to her issues. Most often consciously, pretty much always subconsciously. Now your mirror neurons are firing. You emotionally connect to the thoughts and feelings.
Your subconscious “connects the dots”.
And as you tap along you're releasing (part of) your own issues too.
So since ‘borrowing benefits’ already produces lasting results, my expectation is that ‘borrowing benefits on steroids’ produces far more profound, lasting changes.
The main focus of the webinar is the fear of judgment.
I sent an email to my whole email list, asking them for their number #1 social fear. And this was the “winner”.
So that’s why I decided to focus on this.
That said, we address many other fears too.
Like…
Etc
And, as we address one fear, other fears get addressed too.
Plus, as I coached Mahsa on her fear of negative judgment, many other common social anxiety issues showed up for her.
Like:
Etc
And we tapped and released all of these problems.
So while fear of judgment is the main focus going in, we actually work on releasing all her social anxiety.
So YES we address many other fears and social anxiety issues in these sessions.
Yes.
After each coaching session I encourage everyone to leave a comment under the video.
This is not mandatory of course, but I encourage it. Your question can help others, and comments under the video inspire others to watch the video.
The testimonials you see on this page all come straight from the people who have left a comment under one of the coaching webinars (and I have their permission to share, if you don't want me to share yours you can say so and I won't).
Many people also ask a question, or share their main issue. I then comment and give some tips, insight, and advice.
I won't be able to answer in detail how you should personally go about resolving your social anxiety, as that is beyond the scope of a simple message reply. But, the tips I give will get you to the next level.
And your comments are very much appreciated, and I respond to all comments as long as this is possible.
EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques and is part of a powerful new field called Energy Psychology (EP).
EP combines established Western approaches to therapy, such as exposure therapy (a researched and established Western approach to treatment) with non-Western, holistic techniques of healing and spiritual development.
EFT is an unusual looking tapping technique that combines ancient Chinese acupressure with modern psychology to quickly shift the brain’s neural pathways.
EFT has been proven to be effective and can help you process trauma, release negative emotions (shame, hurt, fear, anxiety, guilt, etc) and change negative limiting beliefs often much faster than conventional therapy can.
EFT is not a placebo. You don't have to believe in it for it to work.
EFT is also not a distraction technique. To the contrary, when you use EFT you specifically focus on the problem while you stimulate certain acupressure points on the face and body.
While it's a relatively new approach (about 20 years old) it's beginning to become mainstream. EFT was featured on the Dr Oz show, the Huffington post, Psychology today, etc. Personal development experts like Tony Robbins and Wayne Dyer recommend it.
Tapping is being used by millions of people worldwide, and leading voices in the psychology world recommend it.
"The techniques of EP have provided me with invaluable tools for working with trauma. No therapist can afford to remain ignorant of this new and exciting field."
-Nathaniel Brandon, PhD Author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
"EP techniques and procedures can bring about remarkably rapid changes in the way people feel."
-Bessel van der Kolk Professor of Psychiatry, Boston University School of Medicine
If you're skeptical, there's probably nothing I can say that will convince you that EFT is the real deal.
However, what does convince even the biggest skeptics is the experience of tapping working its power.
And a real skeptic makes sure he's right about how much of a fluke tapping is...
So what I invite you to do is to give it a chance.
That's what I did, and it changed my life forever. Because when you feel something shift inside of you, that change is undeniable.
And when you rapidly release a sense of shame or a feeling of fear that's been with you for decades, you'll know tapping is the real deal.
To make this easy for you, I offer a free replay of a tapping session I did with Mahsa. You can check that out here and start watching it and tapping along with it in minutes.
Many of the testimonials on this page are taken from comments under that video.
Some degree of skepticism is normal and healthy. It means you're not gullible and don't want to waste your time and effort.
However, if we get our hopes up and get disappointed several times, we can raise our skepticism to the top. And we try nothing anymore, and we're closed to anything and everything. That's an unhelpful level of skepticism.
I'm making this as easy for you as possible, I'm giving you this 100min tap along replay of a live webinar I did. All you have to do is watch it and tap along. Start watching now.
Awkwardly exposing yourself to what you fear is not necessary.
This is not CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) where you push yourself to face your fears.
You do need to address the fear, but there are more effective ways of going about it.
When you experience excessive fear it is there for a reason:
You LEARNED to fear what you fear.
If you are afraid of rejection or disapproval, you learned that somewhere.
Perhaps your mom or dad was critical, or they had high expectations.
Or perhaps you were bullied.
Or maybe one day you were harshly treated by a teacher. Or maybe…
These are just some of the hundreds of possible examples.
But they are common experiences that cause people to start to develop a fear of rejection or disapproval.
SOMETHING has caused you to start fearing rejection, disapproval, negative judgment, or whatever it is that you’re afraid of.
If you don’t know what it is, that’s common.
Through tapping along with me and Mahsa you'll uncover and release it.
Mahsa was afraid of being judged harshly by people.
And the CBT way would have been to just go out socially and try to convince herself logically that she's safe and that it won't happen. And that she can handle disapproval.
She did things like this for 8 years. And as she wrote in her client for, she'd been to therapy and group therapy for 5 years.
And her fear of negative judgment was still 9 out of 10...
What we did in the tapping sessions is we looked for what CAUSED her to start fearing negative judgment.
In Mahsa's case, it was (partly)
a mean uncle. Around him she felt unworthy, small, uncomfortable and insignificant.
Her brain since used those painful experiences with her judgmental uncle as a resource to predict future experiences.
Through her uncle she LEARNED to fear judgment.
When we released the negative emotions connected to her experiences with her uncle...
... and we shifted the limiting beliefs she learned from that...
Her fear of judgment was gone.
0 out of 10.
Now she reported the next session:
"I've felt so comfortable, like I didn't even worry about others were thinking at all, and I could just focus on myself."
See, we’re born with only two fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.
The rest is all learned through life’s repetitive negative experiences and life’s (mini) traumas.
By tapping in the right way we can heal the past and clear the fear.
After the cause of the fear is cleared, you can neutralize the fear itself.
And then you calm and at ease where you formerly felt fearful.
Still hard to believe? Get an experience of it for yourself now: Tap along with the first of the 5 live coaching webinar replays FOR FREE. Click here and start watching now.
You can expect to see results after tapping along with the first 90min long coaching session I did with Mahsa.
So you can watch the free replay of my session with Mahsa, and notice progress already.
You really have nothing to lose, and massive benefits to be gained.
Start watching here right now.
PS You can expect to see a progressive reduction of your social anxiety as you tap along with the other 4 replays of the live coaching webinars with Mahsa.
These tap along webinars are for educational purposes only. They are highly specific to Social Anxiety and are designed to release this problem alone. It is not for those who have severe depression, a history of sexual abuse, suicidal tendencies, or personality disorders. And they are not intended to diagnose or treat any disease. Your participation in tapping along is contingent on your taking full responsibility for your own mental, emotional and physical health. You also acknowledge that some of the techniques Sebastiaan will be using and demonstrating in the replays are still considered experimental with no guaranteed outcomes for any particular user. Just because results have been positive for many others does not mean they will be for you. You further agree to consult your physician or professional therapist regarding your use of the techniques, especially if you are dealing with mental or physical health issues. This program is designed to help you release your fear of judgment and is not designed to treat severe or complex trauma, if you are dealing with these issues you should consult a mental health professional.
"This was a wonderful coaching session! I could relate to this entire video on many levels (we with SA have commonalities), but in parts I felt that it was a personal coaching session. The gymnasium exercise...I used "MK's childhood baggage" was powerful, and I used the tapping sequence about Masha's step-father and replaced it with my mother. I needed this...thank you for what you do Sebastiaan."
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"Hi Seb! I just want to say how much I enjoyed this webinar. Thank you to Mahsa for being so open and so brave. When Mahsa cried, I cried right along with her as that aspect really hit home for me too. I have tapped on my own before and never got the results I got from watching this webinar. There is something very powerful about watching someone else's experience -- I love Borrowing Benefits! Great idea putting this program together Seb, I've been waiting for something just like this. I'm looking very forward to watching the other webinars and hopefully making big breakthroughs. Keep up the excellent work Seb & Mahsa! You ROCK! Thank you!!"
"During this series I've realised many things that I haven't seen before (guess those are the 'cognitive shifts' you mentioned)), and it's been such an amazing experience for me. Just to notice what gets triggered in me during webinars is enlightening and maybe also a bit overwhelming (but I've tapped on that so I'm fine for now :D). And then those shifts - for example I've never realised how much I was stuck or rather fused with my childhood garbage and just the idea of not having it felt so bad and weird, I'd feel even guilty. This was huge shift for me, cause i don't have to have it! And with your help I managed to release big part of the 'web' - the overall mood set and feelings from my childhood. And it feels so good and so liberating to not carry that around anymore."
"This helped me maybe more than the other tutorials. Its much more clear for me how to use the EFT now. Thank you very much for doing this. I think I made another huge progress just from these videos with Mahsa."
"I loved this. Iām feeling the most positive change after this video. Itās crazy how similar my problems are to Mashaās. I remember a time when I thought I was the only person with these issues. I canāt wait for the next video. Iām loving these coaching sessions. Thanks for doing this Seb and Masha"
"Thanks for the great work, I felt relief also from tapping about not deserving to feel good etc and now noticing I don't worry so much about what others are thinking about me, so good stuff .. Looking forward for the next session. Nice to see also how Mahsa is progressing"
"Another great session. I noticed the biggest relief from tapping on the feelings of not liking myself. I feel right now that in social situations to come I probably will feel some anxiety, but I'm just not worried about it. I feel I can just take it as it comes."
"I really enjoyed this session. It was a bit of an eye opener for me. When I got to the part of the video where you were tapping on āIām not good enoughā and then onto I donāt like myselfā it really hit a nerve and I felt quite emotional. I felt shocked at my reaction at the time because I thought I was more ok with myself than that. During the session I tapped on a person who was my boss who made me feel uncomfortable. It felt to me that he didnāt like me or wasnāt impressed by me because I was too quiet and he preferred more outgoing, and opinionated people to be in his team. I started with a 10 and got it down to 0. Good riddance I thought. So that was good. At the end of the season I felt the same as Mahsa. I canāt wait to go out and try it out"
"Great session. I love that you know so much about this subject Seb, its really helped me a lot and turned my life around, and at age 58 these patterns have been entrenched for decades."
"This was a wonderful coaching session! I could relate to this entire video on many levels (we with SA have commonalities), but in parts I felt that it was a personal coaching session. The gymnasium exercise...I used "MK's childhood baggage" was powerful, and I used the tapping sequence about Mahsa's step-father and replaced it with my mother. I needed this...thank you for what you do Sebastiaan."
"Firstly, thank you Mahsa for being brave enough to go through with the live session! It really helped me too & although my childhood experiences were different to yours I could totally relate to the feelings of sadness, despair etc that comes with social anxiety. I was also moved to tears (which is very rare for me!) a couple of times while tapping & felt some relief also. Thank you also Sebastiaan for providing these sessions, they are fantastic! "
"Hi, This was actually a very emotional video for me to watch. Not because my root cause of my social anxiety is the same as Mahsa's but because I could relate to the emotional pain she was experiencing. I cried several times watching this video and tapping along with it because I felt a lot of sadness during the session. It somehow opened up a lot of emotional pain that I have stored in my body. At the same time I also felt relief as the session progressed, as though I was able to let go of some of my pain. It was very helpful. Thank you to both Mahsa for being so brave and to Sebastiaan for being an amazing therapist."
"So, I'm 41 and have S.A. since my early teens. For some reason the first thing that came to my mind was a memory from my early childhood of my mum getting angry and smashing my dinner plate (and dinner) on the floor. She was actually angry with my dad and not me. But somehow I connected that to my fear of being judged, being 'not good enough'. I started the session at about a 7 and finished at around 2. So thanks very much Seb and Masha."
"Hi Seb, and Mahsa. Firstly let me say that I suffer with SA for more then 10 years (I'm 34 now). At the beginning of the webinar i felt a 7-8 level of anxiety when thinking of me in the worst situations, and a 3-4 at the end."
"I assisted the webinar live this Sunday and today (Thursday) I can say that my week is going very well. As you suggested on this session, I am tapping when anxiety starts wanting to appear (I m tapping on my fingers). I have been generally more relaxed, confident and happier (different then my usual weeks). IĀ“m going well on social situations (but this week I did not yet had the worst and strongest situations that triggers my SA, although I have had some situations that normally can trigger SA but did not). For me the eye contact is my worst problem and it gives me a lot of anxiety and makes me block when interacting with people. Although IĀ“m having a great week very confident and calm. Thank you so much Seb for the good deed you doing helping so many people. God bless you! Thank you also Mahsa for being so brave and also helping us surpass SA. God bless you to!! Love to you all!!!"
"That was very helpful, great insight and honestly just beautiful to watch. To see Mahsa lower her anxiety levels in all these areas was wonderful to witness, it is the greatest gift one can give themselves. Congratulations Mahsa! Seb, such insight from the way you drill down into the issue to use on my own tapping work."
"I saw the first video I felt a little bit better but the next day I come back to the same point then I saw the second video and tap along with it I felt something change but I hesitate to right comment or give feedback because I want to see is this change going to stuck with me !! So the next day I went out between the people and I am less anxiety and I am less care about them this time I felt happy because this change Because I have severe anxiety (panic attack) for five years I canāt go in the public I canāt buy something I canāt cross the street I canāt do anything simple outside but now itās better. I am waiting for the third video because itās amazing, thank you for this offer Sebastian and thank you Mahsa to allowing us to see your videos"
"I have definitely noticed a significant improvement in regards to not worrying about what people think of me since watching the coaching series and Iām very grateful for this. I was almost worried that I might not care enough, and that I might say something that may offend someone or let myself go, appearance wise, but then I quickly realised I wouldnāt do that. One of the things I dread at work is having meetings. I attended one a couple of days ago and although I did initially feel a little bit anxious It did pass quite quickly and I was able to speak out more than I usually do without the usual symptoms of my heart beating faster and sweaty palms. Which feels pretty good, and I feel determined that to keep on improving. Iām so glad I discovered you and am grateful for what you do. Iām looking forward to watching replay #3"
"I have progress with every session you did with Mahsa and I am waiting to see the last session so please donāt be late to upload the video and if you have another session with another people iām interesting to purchase these programs and if you have something special like new programs please just share Thank you Seb"
"Hi Seb, another fantastic webinar, I finally got time to watch...thank you for what you do, look forward to seeing you both again in the next webinar."
"After participating the webinar previous to this one, I was having a good week. But after having one or two shitty encounters or feeling a bit anxious with eye contact (that is my biggest problem) and understanding that the other person perceived it, starts bringing again a bit of shame, sadness and frustration. I think that causes me a negative spiral of insecurity and a feeling of "I cant do this" that starts worsening my anxiety mostly with the eye contact. I participated in this series. It felt very powerful. I believe this therapy is fixing me inside and I have the belief IĀ“ll become socially at ease with natural eye contact with anyone, no matter what circumstance. Im not sure if I already accept my SA, but I know that what happens in life is for a good reason, and I accept it in that way. Thank you both Seb and Masha for this. I really appreciate these videos. Itās hard for me to bring up the emotion when Iām on my own just thinking about it. I started the session about 3 and finished about a 1. Feeling much better."
"Super helpful video as resistance is my biggest struggle. Most of the time I do tapping I have to force myself to do it because deep down I donāt think itās really going to work. After going through this video I feel a lot more positive and exited about getting to work on it, so thank you very much. Also your diagram on the whiteboard was great. Makes things really easy to understand."
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