Angie:
"Sebastiaan is really great to work with, he has this way to come down to where you are and make you feel comfortable, gently leading you to where you want to be. He also has a great sense of humor thus putting fun in the process!”

Tapan:
"I originally wanted to work with him because I heard him on a podcast and I was impressed by how much effort he had put in over a number of years, how much he has learned, and how he'd really thought through how to help other people in a very methodical way. When I first chatted with him, I was immediately drawn to his presence. He was totally present with me, engaged, calm. He’s extremely easy to work with, he does a lot of the heavy lifting during these sessions. He'll be totally present with you, totally engaged, and he helps you identify and address issues and even help you articulate how to address them. And does a lot of the work for you, so it's almost one of the easiest ways to get into EFT if you have any apprehension about it."

Adam D, psychotherapist:
"I have been in a lot of different types of therapy over the years and for me, this one is remarkably effective. The combination of the tapping technique and Sebastiaan’s skills and insight have created more forward movement in a short period of time than ever before. He really is an expert on social anxiety and all of the traps that a person with social anxiety finds himself in. And I’m not gonna lie, I’m so impressed by him. It’s the combination of his ability to be highly attuned and so articulate that works so well. His precision cuts through the walls and defenses, gets me in touch with the deeper feelings and assumptions, and with the tapping, moves it out… all while giving me a new and more effective way to frame how I can approach future situations feeling safe and interested in embracing life.”

Siamak:
"The enjoyable part was tapping and the fun way that you handled the situation. I remember in the last session you discovered a seriousness within me. And we tapped through that. I realized yes, I try to be serious in those situations. And that is a kind of disconnection between who I really am. And that caused another anxiety."

Karen:
"I find it very difficult to find the time to work on myself. So I needed these appointments or else I’d never ever process through all this stuff. You somehow found a way - I didn’t even know what to focus or work on - to work on things that were relevant. So every time we worked on something relevant, that I didn’t even expect. You found the problems and that was really important. You understood stuff I was going through. Others might find I was completely crazy or stupid for having these issues to start with, but you understood and made me feel it was OK to have these issues and deal with it. And, it was fun. You’re funny to talk with, you’re relaxed and not this straight-laced person that’s telling you what you just must do. You’re very open and interesting to talk to. And you have the experience, which is huge, because you know what you’re talking about. And that’s very important. You actually listened and found out what was going on. You didn’t jump to some conclusion and start working on that, you actually targeted the problem 100%. I felt like you did what you’re supposed to. Like sometimes you go and see somebody and they kind of get you, but not really. So it was very beneficial. Another thing is that it’s like therapy because I am talking, but it’s also the energetic work that’s an extra bonus that you can’t just get talking to somebody. I feel like the issues we’ve dealt with are now dealt with. I absolutely would recommend coaching because you’ve actually helped me. It’s not just another thing that I’ve done that in a few years will be forgotten. I feel like I’ve got a benefit out of it, my situation has improved tremendously. Thank you so much you really have made such a difference.”

Alfred:
"It's nice to talk to someone, not to always be in your head and think about stuff and read about stuff. It's actually nice to talk to someone who has been in the same situation and that completely gets you more than you even get yourself. That's super nice."

Mary:
"What it was actually like was... I definitely was triggered... but I knew I had the mindset that it was helping me even if I felt nervous. You had primed me a little bit beforehand that if I'm going to be on the call and stuff is coming up I can tap through it and that's actually helping me - doing all the tapping while I was getting triggered. And you had a calming presence. It was a very easy, simple process in that you just literally just sit there and talk and tap and heal."

Sebastian:
"This technique really works. Every minute that I invested and, you know, talking about my problems and doing tapping was more than worth it. My life changed completely. I have a totally different experience of life, a lot more deep and a lot more connection."

Salua:
"I was happy working on the childhood issues because it used to put me down very much. It was very important for me, and I didn't know that I would go back to the roots of the problem. I really liked this because it solved many problems in my head that I wasn't aware of. Through the coaching sessions, I felt like I was getting closer to myself, and the doubts and fears started to go away. I started to feel better in situations even when I faced challenges. I felt more calm and relaxed. I used to be so overwhelmed in social situations and nervous, but after starting the coaching, I started to feel relaxed and enjoy my time in social situations between people. I started to be calm and have peace in my mind."

Tavon:
"I'm so thankful for your coaching. It honestly means so much to me. I've done coaching, meditation, and many other things, but there was something really significant after my sessions with you that I don't feel I could consciously grasp. I just followed along with what you said and it really helped a lot. Addressing the childhood issues for me was definitely the most important part. I felt like that's where a lot of it stemmed from, and going through those issues and doing the tapping made a big difference. It's amazing to me. There are times throughout my day where I significantly notice the differences that tapping has made. It's like, 'Wow, I wasn't comfortable doing this a couple of months ago.' It's been a wonderful experience."

The way coaching works is simple: Just show up, however you feel. Any kind of thought or feeling is totally OK and welcome.

Through the process, I’ll be asking you questions, telling short stories, giving you metaphors, and guiding your tapping! All with a single intent: To help you gently release your social anxiety.

While most people experience some anxiety the first session, or maybe the first few sessions, they usually begin to feel more comfortable quite quickly. It helps to know I was in the same spot before, and you’re not judged. And, it helps even more than we actually have the tools to handle the anxiety. As a result, you’ll soon find yourself feeling quite at ease surprisingly quickly. While we likely will discuss challenging topics, it’s possible to resolve issues without getting into details. And of course, what you say remains private.

Reliving past trauma is not necessary. While we will likely talk about challenging topics, if there are intense negative emotions they will be short-lived. And, painful topics are only brought up for the purpose of gaining relief on them.

Clients may find the initial session, or sessions a bit scary (part of the problem!)… But very soon it’s something they look forward to big time. Because the sessions become highly enjoyable, and afterwards you feel amazing; You’ve released part of your social anxiety issue and you feel more empowered, at ease, and free to be you :)

No. There is no endless talking about your problems. No reliving of painful trauma. And no forcing yourself to awkwardly face your fears… … just effective steps to deal with the CORE of your social anxiety. Instead of fighting the symptoms, we address the causes of your SA.

You are tuning in to negative emotions and memories from the past... But, you're not reliving them. The emotional upset you experience is short-lived. You feel relief in minutes.

With EFT we're getting rid of your social anxiety gently and efficiently. You're making powerful emotional changes, feeling safe and supported.

This is a very gentle, efficient process.

You will NOT be asked to go high five strangers, plank in public, start public speaking, or other things to awkwardly face your fear.

This isn’t exposure therapy.

Instead, we work together while you sit behind your laptop/phone in the comfort of your own home. We then tune in to the experiences that trigger your anxiety. And we will use tapping to neutralise the causes of this anxiety.

Often enough, just this alone will release the social anxiety in a particular social event.

As an example, say that ‘Friday work meetings’ are your biggest social anxiety issue. You feel super anxious in them…

During our sessions we will then focus on releasing the causes of this. We will clear past trauma, fears, beliefs, and help you accept all parts of yourself.

After this, you will no longer feel anxious imagining the Friday meetings. Now it’s time for
“reality testing”: Seeing how it is now after you’ve made this inner transformation.

When you then find yourself in the next Friday meeting, you may discover that you feel surprisingly confident. No anxiety anymore at all!

Next Friday you go again, and indeed: you’re comfortable there now.

Great!

This properly updates your old programming, which had labeled Friday meetings as threatening. As a result, ‘Friday meetings’ are now included inside your comfort zone.

Happy days :)

Now this doesn’t always happen in one go. Sometimes after the initial session you’ll still feel anxious during the next Friday meeting, but a lot less anxious.

If so, you tell me about the remaining anxiety in the next session. And we will release whatever is left. This way you’re becoming less and less anxious, until you feel completely comfortable and at ease in meetings.

It really is as gentle and easy as this. As you’re more comfortable in meetings now, we can then tackle your next biggest social anxiety issue, and so on. This way you gently expand your comfort zone. Gradually you’ll become more and more comfortable with more and more people, circumstances, and events.

It works for any kind of social anxiety disorder-related issue.

That said, I cannot help anyone and everyone. This coaching is not for you if you’re also suffering from other, additional compounding issues like severe depression, OCD, bipolar disorder, etc., or if you have a history of sexual abuse.

I am not trained to help with the above, and so I am not the best person to assist with that.

However, if you are suffering from social anxiety (disorder) alone, I am confident I can help you, regardless of how intense your social anxiety is, how long you’ve suffered, or how “tough of a case” you believe you are.

Many clients who thought their cases were hopeless have made incredible transformations through my coaching. I can help and have experience helping people with the following issues:

• anticipatory anxiety
• anxiety being the center of attention
• anxiety meeting strangers
• anxiety speaking up in meetings
• assertiveness issues
• body image issues
• blushing, trembling, shaking
• being in a group anxiety
• being in your head all the time
• catastrophizing
• dating and relationship anxiety and challenges
• driving anxiety
• eating in public anxiety
• eye contact problems
• fear of authority figures
• fear of blushing, sweating, or trembling
• fear of embarrassment
• fear of intimacy
• fear of judgment
• fear of rejection or criticism
• fear of silence
• fear of success
• feeling inferior
• feeling unworthy
• handling criticism
• "i'm not good enough" feelings
• job interview anxiety
• loneliness and isolation
• negative self-talk
• people pleasing
• performance anxiety
• perfectionism
• public speaking anxiety
• rejection sensitivity
• school and academic settings anxiety
• self-criticism
• shyness
• shopping and errands anxiety
• small talk anxiety
• social comparison
• social gatherings anxiety
• social interactions anxiety
• telephone anxiety
• trouble making friends
• travel and new environments anxiety
• workplace anxiety

And the list goes on! I can help you overcome any kind of social fear, limiting belief, or form of social anxiety. If you have a particular issue not on the list, I highly likely can still help you with it - but I have to end the list somewhere!

If you want to make sure I feel confident I can help you with it, you can email us at
[email protected]

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a form of Energy Psychology (EP) that combines ancient Chinese acupressure with modern psychology to quickly shift the brain's neural pathways.

It has been proven to be effective in processing trauma, releasing negative emotions, and changing negative limiting beliefs, often faster than conventional therapy.

EFT is not a placebo and does not require belief to work; it is a focused technique that targets specific acupressure points on the face and body while addressing the problem.

The approach has gained mainstream recognition, being featured on prominent platforms like the Dr. Oz show and Psychology Today, and is recommended by notable personal development experts like Tony Robbins and Wayne Dyer.

EFT is being used by millions of people worldwide, and leading voices in the psychology world recommend it for their rapid and effective results.

“The techniques of EP have provided me with invaluable tools for working with trauma. No therapist can afford to remain ignorant of this new and exciting field.”
-Nathaniel Brandon, PhD Author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

“EFT is a powerful tool for achieving emotional freedom by releasing negative emotions and promoting emotional well-being." - 
-Jay Shetty, former monk, famous podcast host

“EFT is a technique that connects the body and mind, allowing us to release negative emotions and promote emotional well-being."
-Dr Candace Perth, neuroscientist, author of Molecules of Emotion: The Science Behind Mind-Body Medicine

“EP techniques and procedures can bring about remarkably rapid changes in the way people feel."
-Leading trauma researcher Bessel van der Kolk, Professor of Psychiatry, Boston University School of Medicine. Author of ‘the body keeps the score’.

Yes, EFT is scientifically proven to be effective. There are 102 scientific studies proving its effectiveness, and new studies are frequently emerging as the evidence grows.

EFT has six META analyses done, which represent the highest level of scientific evidence.

It is currently in the top 10% of the most researched psychotherapy techniques.

EFT meets the criteria for evidence-based treatments set by the APA (the American Psychological Association) for several conditions, including public speaking anxiety, various forms of anxiety, and PTSD.

Studies have shown that EFT decreases the production of cortisol, your stress hormone, and increases the production of serotonin, your happy hormone. These biochemical responses create a sense of calm.

Here's a summary study to check out:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6381429/

When you’ve tried a lot of things and nothing has worked, it's common to start to feel hopeless and skeptical that you will ever overcome your problem. I can’t tell you how many clients have told me they’re not just a “tough case,” but “the toughest case.”

That’s because other approaches tend to not be as effective. And even with tapping, social anxiety disorder is a complex issue to resolve in most cases. Tapping is a powerful tool, but social anxiety disorder is a unique challenge. If you don’t know how to target the right issues, you can end up going in circles, which is the experience of the vast majority of people, including seasoned EFT practitioners. It took me 6 to 7 years of solely working with socially anxious clients before I could help my first client become free of social anxiety.

So, when nothing you try works, you can feel really stuck. And from this place of stuck-ness, people often draw (false) conclusions:

Tapping doesn’t work for me
Tapping only gives me temporary relief
I’m just a socially anxious person
I’m introverted and it’s normal to feel anxious for us
I probably inherited bad genes
I’m broken… I’m too tough of a case, beyond help

The reality, however, is that tapping does work and yields permanent results when applied in the right way.

This is what I’ve been fortunate enough to experience myself, after initially only experiencing temporary relief. Thanks to the help of some brilliant therapists, and a lot of persistence and study, I eventually completely overcame my severe social anxiety disorder.

I suffered from severe social anxiety disorder and have spent 22 years obsessed with finding social anxiety solutions. I've invested over $150,000 in supervision from the best psychotherapists, coaches, and tapping experts in the world. In the past 15 years, I’ve worked with hundreds of socially anxious clients, logging over 6,000 coaching hours, including 600 hours of group coaching, constantly honing my approach.

Thankfully, my clients now consistently report life-transforming results. This kind of coaching is nothing like what you have tried before. It is an entirely different approach. And I’m confident I can help you, too.

You’re not born anxious, which means you learned how to become anxious. From painful experiences in your past, you created negative limiting beliefs and learned what to fear. This causes your brain to perceive danger in social situations, activating the fight, flight, freeze response.

Together, we will discover why that response is there. And through:

Allowing Acceptance
Releasing Resistance
Terminating Triggers of social anxiety

You will become less and less anxious and more and more socially at ease.

Every person is unique and every situation is unique, so it's impossible to give you an exact prediction. It depends on a variety of factors, such as how intense and pervasive your social anxiety is, how challenging your past has been, how much (subconscious) resistance you have, and what your current life experience looks like.

However...

The good news is that your social anxiety problem can be broken down into smaller pieces. Using EFT tapping, we focus on getting rid of one piece of your problem at a time. Step by step, you’ll start feeling less and less anxious.

Over 90% of clients experience an emotional shift after the first session. They feel something has changed and report feeling lighter, more comfortable, happier, more at peace, and more optimistic.

Your social anxiety will begin to decrease in three ways: intensity, frequency, and duration.

Intensity decreases: Your social anxiety will become less strong. For example, your anxiety when being the center of attention might start at an 8 out of 10. But after a coaching session, it might drop to a 4 out of 10. With more sessions, this can drop even further, until there is no anxiety left in that situation.

Frequency decreases: You may currently have specific situations that trigger anxiety, such as public speaking or talking to someone you’re attracted to. Or, like the vast majority of my clients, you may have generalized social anxiety disorder, feeling anxious in many social situations. This could include:

• Being the center of attention
• Around your boss
• Meeting new people
• Being observed
• Introducing yourself
• At the gym
• In the supermarket

Etc. The list can be very long!

As we work together, the frequency of these triggers will decrease. For instance, you might start with anxiety in seven situations. As we release your social anxiety related to being the center of attention, you won’t get triggered in this situation anymore. Now you only have six triggers left.

As we keep going, the number of triggering situations will reduce even further. Eventually, there will be no more people, circumstances, or events that trigger your social anxiety.

Duration decreases: This is about how long the anxiety sticks around when you get triggered. Does it last the whole evening? Or does it go away within an hour, 30 minutes, 10 minutes, or even 2 minutes? Over time, anxiety will leave faster and faster the more we work on it together.

As we address the deeper underlying issues (trauma, low self-esteem, perfectionism, self-consciousness), your social ease will begin to increase. Bit by bit, you’ll feel more and more at ease, more comfortable with more people, circumstances, and events.

While everyone’s experience is unique, you can expect to gain relief quickly. You’ll notice your social anxiety begin to decrease within a handful of sessions and have a profound life-changing experience during our 6-month intensive.

No worries, most people don’t know what caused it. Leave that up to me. Often enough there is no obvious trauma, but there are always causes of your social anxiety. You’re not born with social anxiety, and there’s no such thing as a ‘socially anxious person’. You might have a more sensitive temperament (like me, and many of my clients), but you can be highly sensitive and socially at ease. You might be introverted, but you can be a socially at ease introverts (like many of my clients have become). And while they say you can have genes that make you more susceptible to developing social anxiety, there has never been found a ‘social anxiety gene’.

In other words, social anxiety is learned, and can be unlearned.

All you need to do is show up, and together we will uncover the underlying factors contributing to your social anxiety. Through our sessions, we will identify and address the root causes, even if they are not immediately clear to you. My approach is designed to gently guide you through this process, helping you understand and resolve your social anxiety step by step.

Yes, I do. If you have committed yourself and paid in full prior to the first session, and after the first session you decide, “this is not for me,” I am happy to provide a full refund. This refund policy is only applicable after the first session.